I had my first one-night stand on New Year’s Eve 2019, and something really strange happened.
I used to be very wary about one-night stands. I had several opportunities during my 20s, as most people on this planet probably did, but I always turned it down and made it home by myself, somehow, no matter if I had had too much to drink.
At the time I used to think it had to do with the fact that didn’t like myself enough to think anyone else could like me, as well, and since I think this is one of the most intimate and vulnerable situations you can put yourself in, I didn’t want to open that door to all the self-deprecation and mindfuckery that would come afterward.
But time passed, and now my relationship with myself is healed. I am now convinced that situations like one-night stands are not always ignited by men to take advantage of women (which was my go-to thought before), but that they can also be incited by empowered women who just want to have a little fun.
That door of opportunity opened again on New Year’s Eve. I was a little tipsy, but I ran with it, because it was clear in my mind that all I wanted was sex. I liked the idea of closing 2019 doing something that I had chosen to do, freely, and that made me feel empowered.
So, we’re in the heat of it, and Mr. NYE tries to bypass the condom.
He says he’s clean, he takes tests, he is as fit as a fiddle, please trust him.
I say I don’t trust him.
He says, I get it, you don’t know me.
And then I look at him straight in the eye and say, “Nah, dude. Thing is, I do not EVER want to have children, so there is no way I’ll risk getting pregnant. You either use it, or I go home.”
Up until this moment, it doesn’t sound strange, right? Normal childfree woman reaction.
But the thing is, I’m sterilized!
I got my tubes tied earlier in 2019, and there is a tiny, almost-zero chance that I could get pregnant!
I wouldn’t have done it without a condom, anyway, because you really can’t trust a man you just met about his sexual health, but man. The pregnancy fear is real!
*Featured image by Sasint
Isabel Firecracker is the founder and firebrand of The Uprising Spark, a platform designed to help modern, childfree women define and reach their life goals. She is a world traveler, an avid kitesurfer, and loves dogs. Pragmatic, no-nonsense life coach and host of The Honest Uproar podcast. Childfree intersectional feminist.