Why Did I Agree to Interview a Pro-Lifer?

LeNora

The three of us sat at our computers, me in Canada, Kristen in the U.S, and Isabel in Colombia. We went over some business before welcoming our guest on screen. I had prepared only one question, as I wanted to see where the conversation was going to go. In hindsight, it would have been more effective to pull out my childhood Bible.

A pro-life Christian had reached out to us on Instagram looking to have a conversation with someone who is “pro-choice aka pro-abortion.”  Fighting words right there, eh? I’m not much of an arguer on social media. Kristen usually handles these conversations since she loves them.

And that’s how I ended up spending an hour being told how I had no right to claim rape and incest are wrong, let alone abortions, because it’s my world-view and not that of God’s word. 

Photo by Luis Quintero from Pexels

I’ve never aspired to be a host of anything. I had no experience interviewing people prior to this web series. It’s a challenge to remain stoic. The amount of times I’ve broken off into a fit of giggles during conversations is countless. Five minutes into this interview, I wanted to laugh.

Not because it was funny, but because it felt like a bad joke. Our guest looked sensible, but beware the wrath of the born-again Christian. I was born into Christianity, left it in my teen-years, was born again at 22, and have since gone on to live life as an agnostic. It’s taken a good decade to remove most of the dogma from my psyche.

I was happy to sit back and let my co-hosts talk. In order to break up the sermon, Kristen said, “LeNora, I know you have a question.”  

 ‘Oh, for fuck’s sake, Kristen,’ I thought, ‘I’m in no mood to converse with this person.’

I think I asked two questions the entire conversation, and both times I felt angry as I spoke. Annoyed and angry. Annangry, maybe? To be fair to the guest, who had a pleasant demeanor, I know what it’s like to believe in something wholeheartedly to the point that everyone else is wrong. That feeling of responsibility to save a “lost” soul. I feel that way anytime someone mentions they want to have children. ‘Do you really?’ I think to myself. I remain pro-choice, however. Do what feels best for you. I advocate for the childfree community, but not with the intent to convince people to not have children. The conversation that was unfolding was not so much a discussion but rather a loop designed to make us repent. 

Once we said good-bye to our guest, the three of us sank back into our chairs, completely drained. Still childfree, but exhausted. This must be what raising a child feels like. An endless loop of WTF!

LeNora Faye is founder of The Bitchy Bookkeeper: a childfree lifestyle brand. She is also creator of Childfree Journals and 1/3 of the founding non-mothers of Childfree Girls.

*Featured photo by ShonEjai from Pexels

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