This post is a response to a Huffington Post article by Ann Brenoff titled, “Midlife ramblings: What I don’t get about my childless/childfree young friends.”
Specifically, this part:
I happen to agree that people who don’t want children should not have them. I’m delighted to wish you well on whatever road you take, but I do find myself stopping mid hand-wave and asking this question: Really?
How can you be so sure? I think having kids is one of those things you should probably never say never about.
I wasn’t too vocal about my choice of living a childfree lifestyle up until a couple of years ago. I will admit that part of the reason I was so quiet about it was that I felt ashamed. I thought there had to be something very wrong with me that led me to believe that I didn’t want to become a mother, so I was denying that part of myself the right to let loose and express freely.
“I think the author is a bit defensive about her choice to not have children.”
“The author sounds so bitter, like she needs to defend herself for being childfree.”
“Why is the author so angry? There is no need to be SO defensive!”
I’ve had a relative say — not about me, of course, she assured me — that every person she knows who chose not to have children is selfish.
More than occasionally, enough times for it to be incredibly irritating, someone will roll their eyes (literally or figuratively) at someone talking about being childfree–whether it’s about their struggles with it or their excitement about it. This blog post explains, from each of our perspectives, why those people are wrong, why we personally talk about it, and why we think others should, too.
I’ve always wondered about women who call themselves childfree and later become mothers. I’ve wondered what that shift in their thoughts and feelings demands.
“What if everyone stopped having kids and the human race died out?”
In the eighth episode of Childfree Girls, our guest is relationship coach Natalie Fikes. She is also a mother. We invited her on the show to discuss some controversial comments she’d made on her social media. The conversation took a turn when we asked about her personal experiences with motherhood.
I had my first one-night stand on New Year’s Eve 2019, and something really strange happened.
I’d seen the memes. I’d read the social media comments. But then I began watching The Mandalorian on the Disney app, and everything changed.